tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post5408072852716370346..comments2023-06-21T03:02:15.688-07:00Comments on ...A Tortoise In the Fast Lane...: 29 Years Ago....Darlahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09122515965841287085noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post-30139607690062013432008-01-07T20:52:00.000-08:002008-01-07T20:52:00.000-08:00I'm sorry. I don't know what I would do if I lost...I'm sorry. I don't know what I would do if I lost my mom. God Bless.junglemamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09176730853175967320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post-92218544089298198992007-12-21T18:26:00.000-08:002007-12-21T18:26:00.000-08:00Darla, thanks for your comments on my blog, that s...Darla, thanks for your comments on my blog, that so validated how I was feeling! I'm glad I'm not the only one who is interrupted to utter distraction. In any case, it made for the perfect addition to the post.Shelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12851446861098955538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post-67216032866468293202007-12-18T09:32:00.000-08:002007-12-18T09:32:00.000-08:00That is really young and so many of us are right a...That is really young and so many of us are right around that age now. As a result of my mom dying, one of my fears has been leaving my kids before they're grown and gone from here. I know how hard that is and how much I've missed having a mom. The positive side though has been, as a result, I appreciate mothering my kids and really enjoy a lot of the little, even mundane, things a mom does because I didn't get that mothering as a child. <BR/><BR/>I just wrote so much, I had to go back and erase most of it because it ended up being long enough to be a post in itself! I guess I have a lot more to say about this topic so I will post more when I get a chance! :) I guess to sum it up in a nutshell, I have to say that my learning goes on and on as a result of losing my mother. I will expound upon that thought soon!Darlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09122515965841287085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post-14764723579136270782007-12-17T15:29:00.000-08:002007-12-17T15:29:00.000-08:00I'm in a puddle after reading this. If there's on...I'm in a puddle after reading this. If there's one thing I don't want to do, it's leave my kids before they're grown. I know what you mean about anniversaries. Most of my people seem to die during the months of October thru December so as soon as the weather turns, I remember a lot more. Some years it is hard, other years it's not, but they are always more present for some reason. This year I just really miss them a lot. I'm going to read your story to my daughter so she will at least think about pulling together, hopefully, all of us together. What a great example your older siblings are!Shelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12851446861098955538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post-45725649699917077212007-12-17T13:12:00.000-08:002007-12-17T13:12:00.000-08:00Thanks for sharing your memories with us. I can n...Thanks for sharing your memories with us. I can not even imagine how it would have been to be you all. You come from a strong family!Carrie and Troy Keiserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722492030174176576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post-45392193663294745172007-12-16T05:21:00.000-08:002007-12-16T05:21:00.000-08:00darla, how sad for you. wow, that is basically my ...darla, how sad for you. wow, that is basically my age and though I feel sometimes i'm about to go, realistically I'm hoping i have more time. i hope you had some close siblings to share your memories and grief with. my heart breaks for you.... though I'm not close at all with my mother, haven't seen her since 1999 and she lives 3 hrs away that is my choice... as a little girl you had none!<BR/>thanks for sharing that.houseofdaneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03468563776869937613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post-90298353554741363512007-12-13T20:49:00.000-08:002007-12-13T20:49:00.000-08:00Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful com...Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful comments! It has been a little bit of a weird day for me..some years the day whizzes by and although I think back, I don't dwell on it. Other years go by, like this one, and I get more affected by it. It is a bittersweet time; on one hand, it was such of a great loss, on the other hand, it was an event that has defined each of us as individuals and us as a family. It helps for me to be able to share the story and get such encouraging comments from others. It puts some fullness back into an otherwise bit of an empty-feeling day! :) Thanks for allowing me to tell about it!Darlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09122515965841287085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post-49623957200655868522007-12-13T20:36:00.000-08:002007-12-13T20:36:00.000-08:00Wow, what a post! 29 years ago and it's something ...Wow, what a post! 29 years ago and it's something you'll never forget. Your story is a lesson to us all.Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13064271466583841630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post-66857277362351974632007-12-13T20:15:00.000-08:002007-12-13T20:15:00.000-08:00Oh Darla... {{{HUGS}}} I am so sorry for your los...Oh Darla... {{{HUGS}}} I am so sorry for your loss at such a young age and what a wonderful family you have that kept your lives going and still loved, supported and encouraged each other. The candle is gorgeous. God Bless you and your family. *wiping tears away*onthegomomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00899118515327742159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post-45290561126897922852007-12-13T13:54:00.000-08:002007-12-13T13:54:00.000-08:00Oh, and by the way, we found out that it was an am...Oh, and by the way, we found out that it was an amniotic fluid embolism that she died from.Darlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09122515965841287085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post-90841374871828416312007-12-13T13:53:00.000-08:002007-12-13T13:53:00.000-08:00The baby didn't survive either. We actually just ...The baby didn't survive either. We actually just got the hospital records from that day, of all the events as they took place. We found out that the baby's heart tones were the first to go (a comfort in a way because I always imagined that he was alive and slowly died as they worked on my mom). He was between 2-3 weeks overdue...a 13 pounder!... and as my mom was almost complete, on the delivery table, they began to lose baby's heart beat, then my mom's blood pressure started dropping. She was conscious during much of it. They gave several IV heart meds, were able to get a blood pressure for a little bit, inserted a pacemaker, then lost her. Pretty tragic! It's still hard sometimes to think of those days and even now, especially days like I've had lately (just so busy, kids intense, fighting each other and me more than ever), I still miss her! It would be fun to have a mom to call and whine to! :) Instead, my sisters get it!!! We all vent to each other, so we're all even, I think!Darlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09122515965841287085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post-91712578630547594722007-12-13T13:49:00.000-08:002007-12-13T13:49:00.000-08:00That is such a sad Christmas story about your mom ...That is such a sad Christmas story about your mom and I am so sorry to hear that you lost her when you were so young. You are luck though to have had such a large family and that has got to have helped everyone to be able to lean on each other and take care of each other - what a blessing. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for sharing this very special and sweet story of your precious mother. I will never forget this story. See you later. KellanKellanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07882991320065439298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post-46831916619515122522007-12-13T12:42:00.000-08:002007-12-13T12:42:00.000-08:00I could not imagine losing my mom - particularly a...I could not imagine losing my mom - particularly at such a young age. It sounds like you have wonderful brother, sisters, and family who rallied around and supported one another during that difficult time. The candle holder is beautiful and a wonderful tribute to your mother.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4396872844759442790.post-90812946780293563542007-12-13T12:16:00.000-08:002007-12-13T12:16:00.000-08:00That is so sad! Your poor dad! I take it the bab...That is so sad! Your poor dad! I take it the baby didn't survive either? And what great older sisters, planning to run the household like that! My teen daughter would run away from home rather than do that, I think.Suburban Correspondenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11488916572135296650noreply@blogger.com